Choosing Friends



A schoolmate of Mymy, my daughter, came to me and asked if Mymy is angry at her, I told her, "No, of course not." Mymy looked like she was not talking to her.

We met again the following day and she asked again if Mymy is angry at her. I told her, "No, she's just like that."

I decided to talk to Gem about what's happening. She said, "...because she always whines and complains a lot, I don't like that", she said, teary-eyed. 

I said, "So you don't like people who are whiners and complains a lot?" she said, "Yes". So I asked, "So, who are your other friends?", and she named them.

I told her, "It's still best to tell your friend what's happening. Tell her, I just want you to know that I don't like you whining and complaining anymore." She shrugged. I told her, "You need to do that, so she'll know, OK?", she nodded.

Our daughter, at 10, would choose to be on her own, more like my husband!, than play with friends (most of them are way younger than her, unfortunately).

But I admire her, at 10, she knows what she wants and she's mind of her own. 

I hope that quality of her continues for life. I hope she'll just remain positive, and know that yes, we don't need whiners and complainers. Instead we need people in our circle who would be proactive and do what needs to be done to make the situation favorable.

We can choose our friends, and we can also keep them for as long as we make them understand our stand on life. Otherwise, we can always let go and be ourselves.

.. and that's OK too.

NAMASTE.


-day 245

19 comments:

  1. As a mother, myself, I do the same and in addition she is the best of friends I have...

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  2. She's so smart knowing a what's right and wrong at an early age and also very honest to her friends.

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  3. She's a bright daughter to smartly choose whom to make friends with. It's very important to choose because it affects her daily routine (specially she's young).

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  4. Children now a days are so talented and smart, they easily learn what's good for them, choose the right or wrong. That's I'm teaching also for my baby, always stand for what is right. So in so there is something wrong, tell him in front of his friends and not by gossiping or backfight.

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  5. She's graced with decisiveness and maturity at a young age. She knows what she wants, but she should also learn how to voice them out.

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  6. Children fare better when they are surrounded by positive influences. It makes them able to face life happily and with confidence.

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  7. at a young age she is someone who knows what she wants, but nevertheless its good that you're there to guide her especially about friendship. Its also important that she's not so choosy yet.

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  8. Namaste, your child is a good example to others. You are lucky to be a parent of that child. You must also be like her when you were young

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  9. that is a strong personality. Your daughter knows what she wants at the early stage. but i hope there is a balance (guidance ) that sometimes we need to look on the other side of the box to reconsider ...

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  10. Your daughter already has a strong and mature mind of her own :) I'm sure you raised her up to be such, and you must really proud of this fact. At least you may not need to worry when she goes to college! :P

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  11. When children are growing, they have their own self, develop own personality and sometimes, we as parents can only be there to guide and give advises. Your daughter knows what makes her comfortable and what makes her irritable. She is choosy but it's very clear that she prefers to be alone rather than be with a friend who makes her world miserable.

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  12. It is hard to choose friends that you can trust for a lifetime. Great article, reminded me of how choosy I was.

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  13. At that age, your daughter has a lot of principle, she knows what's best for her. As parents we should be there to guide our kids.

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  14. She's a smart girl, she knows how to read the characters of her friends. Feel ko paglaki ni Mymy maging psychologist siya. May scientific understanding na siya on her own. She knows to observe, interpret and remember.

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  15. You have a pretty smart kid. At the very young age she knows what she wants. Nice standards for choosing friends.. :) I, too hate whiners.. :D

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  16. So mature of her at a very young age. Being independent is amazing but sometimes we must acknowledge that we still need the help of other people or at least their company.

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  17. It's like what I said to one of my friends. I only have a handful of friends; but a lot of colleagues and acquaintances. Friends are very rare treasures. It really takes time to find them.

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  18. They say "friends of the same feather flocks together" there are positive and negative side of it. Much, choosing friends is not bad, as long as you get long well.

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  19. when choosing friends it is better to choose people you feel like you can be yourself

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